Feminism in BDSM might sound as if there is a conflict between them but I feel as if they can compliment each other. It also depends on what you feel feminism actually is.
There is a really big difference between feeling vulnerable or feeling a sense of danger. Also there are different sides of the danger coin. Bad danger is when you are under threat or you feel afraid from something beyond your control. Being truly afraid of a situation means one thing, time to get out of there. Making yourself safe before you are in that situation is important.
When I was young, I used to feel the need for constant approval. I believe it was because I had such a terrible home life. I used to do a chore with all the excellence I could muster, hoping for a positive comment, a hug, even a smile. There was nothing forthcoming.
Picture S. and I laying on the sofa, entwined in each other and my head is on his chest. It was a quiet moment, a still moment in time. We were in a reflective mood and we began talking about how our relationship got to be so strong. I have not loved a man the way I love S. and we talked about why things sit so comfortably with us.
I have been watching some porn on Red Tube which is free for all you people out there that are interested. It is a part of You Tube. I am not normally a person that watches masses of blue movies but this turned into a form of research. I can see things like bondage furniture that are used, ways to be tied and the different kinds of tools and whips they use.
When a new relationship forms or an established relationship changes we all have expectations of what we want. When that relationship concerns B.D.S.M. you will have preconceived ideas. I mean why would you want it if you didn’t have any ideas of what you find erotic.
I was thinking about my life and something struck me as quite wonderful. At the beginning of my BDSM life there was no place I could go to talk or ask questions. I met with other submissives it’s true but they weren’t in the habit of giving advice. There was no easy place to meet new people or to find a prospective submissive or … Read More Open Communication
I read an interesting post on Master’s Pleasing Bitch’s blog and she mentioned the Safety Net she has with her Master. It was very insightful but it made me think about my own safety with my beloved S.
This is something that I find very erotic and powerfully sexual. The thought of being naked on a balcony, leaning on the rail while S. fucks me silly is a big fantasy. The thought someone might see drives me crazy and we would continue with the scene not caring who may see, makes me so excited I can barely breathe. Unfortunately, our home doesn’t have a balcony. When we travel, I hope we are in a hotel, up from ground level and it has a balcony. I am not game enough to do it on the ground floor.