It has always been my aim to act like a lady. No matter my role in BDSM I maintain that outside of the bedroom. During a scene I can be a slut, a whore and even a cock sucker in the literal sense, but you better not call me those names outside of the bedroom.
I know the correct cutlery to use in a fancy restaurant, I know how to dress well for an occasion too. I speak like a lady, not cussing as a matter of form. I might have an Aussie accent but I know the way to hold up my end of a conversation. I can speak on many subjects but get me in a scene I can just become that whore, slut or cocksucker. I can swear like a trooper, do very unladylike things but there is a line in the sand, so to speak and I try very hard not to go over it.
The other thing is Australians are a nation of bad cussers. Not every Aussie swears but by and large they can have foul mouths. That is one of the big things I have noticed about Americans, they don’t cuss much at all.
To be a lady means something important to me. I am no snob, I don’t regard myself as better than other people, I just have strong sense of the type of person I wish to be. I don’t even do this for my Darling S. Mind you I have come a long way from the early days when I was still stuck in the lifestyle I had first. My then Master was very strict about ladylike behaviour.
I used to eat Pizza with a knife and fork. I could peel a banana with a bread and butter knife and a dessert spoon and cut it into mouthfuls to eat. I couldn’t eat a hamburger without it being wrapped and cut in half. If you wanted to see blind panic in me, present me with a taco! Darling S. has got rid of all that nonsense.
I no longer set a table for a four course meal unless something special is on.
I am relaxed and not caught up in trappings of ladylike behaviour in the extreme. I remain a lady and you better treat me as one. The only person that gets to see my unladylike behaviour is my partner.