I read an interesting blog post on Southern Sir’s Place asking the question ‘How “real” is your online persona? and it had me really thinking hard about it.

How much of me is in this blog?

Well I have put quite a few sexual escapades in here that really happened. So I am in that there. It is raw and honest, but do they actually show the real me? It is easy to read those posts and think I am the queen of sex. Sorry to disappoint you, that isn’t me. I have a healthy sex drive but I am not in the playroom 24/7. I mop the floor, do the washing, clean windows but no one wants to hear about that, do they?

the dream
tied hands

I have spoken about mental health as it pertains to me. It ain’t pretty but it is me. What role does it play in this sex blog? Well I do it so that people can perhaps glean some info from it plus I do it because keeping it in the dark is just wrong. I have these problems but hell I am in a good place right now. Perhaps it might help someone out. If anyone needs someone to talk to about it they are welcome to email me through the ‘Contact Us’ page. I am not a doctor but I can listen and perhaps offer ideas as to what help is available. I guess I do it so that people can see I am flawed yet still have a very healthy BDSM relationship.

I have talked about things I will not indulge in but I have put them in informational or educational posts through the blog. I also do tend to speak of the dynamics S. and I share which is male Dominant to female submissive. I have tried to include male submissives and Female Dommes but I don’t have a great deal of experience to draw on. Sorry guys.

No life runs along smoothly and I have shared with my readers when things are a bit tough. Usually I don’t post as much. Everyone has been so supportive.

So how much of me is in this blog? That would be a great deal. I am unable to write things without me in it. I try my best to be open and honest. I don’t think my readers would want it any other way but I could be wrong.

If you look carefully there are even some pictures of me too. I am not ashamed of who I am but still my lifestyle is hidden from family because I don’t believe they need to know.


8 Comments on “Who am I?

  1. Well that is an interesting question. I think/guess that whatever is on your site is pretty much the person you are, kitten. I don’t have these deluded visions of a sex kitten locked in sir S’s dungeon, rarely allowed to sit up straight and close her legs! :O Sorry, a bit graphic, i know, but you get the picture.

    I know of sites that would have you think just that type of thing but those aren’t the ones i follow, as you have probably already guessed. I follow yours but i think it gives a well rounded view of real life with what i’m guessing is a healthy sex life.

    I say guess because i don’t read your erotic posts either. The reason is simple, reading things like that makes one compare. Comparing in my opinion is a sure fire way to find misery. If i need information than i will search it out but otherwise i will simply revel in my own little fantasy world and live happily ever after. I don’t feel left behind and i don’t feel like something is missing in life, even in the inevitable dry spells. Anyway ….

    I find ‘you’ in what i read here, I don’t imagine you would be any different in person. Authenticity, that’s what i read. ❤


    • Wow, thank you nijntje. I am so glad you like the journal entries. It doesn’t surprise me that you don’t read the erotica considering who you are. Like you I find that you are a real person and I imagine you would have a wicked sense of humour. I also know your life is full of challenges that you navigate with style and grace. Thank you for your kind words. ❤ ❤ ❤

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      • And thank you for your kindness as well, Kitten! ❤ Life is what we make it, i truly believe that.

        I do have a sense of humour, you are right about that! Dinner around our house can be quite something to behold, both the boys and i tend to have a very dark sense of humour. It's not for the faint of heart, that's for sure!! LoL

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  2. My best friend (and fellow writer) and I were talking about this the other day. I love reading blogs like yours that are so *real*. Real people, real experiences. Good and bad. My blog is the real me, too, though I write a lot of fiction. But as a writer, I am more me than I am anywhere else in my life. But due to a very public job, I have to be very careful about putting myself out there as a writer who is poly and bi and into bdsm. I think that’s why I gravitate toward this blogging community so much! Thanks for sharing yourself with us!


    • Thank you for your kind words. I have written a book that is on Amazon but it is nothing to do with the lifestyle. I do find it maintains my security. I have said a few things in here that touches but never falls into the public domain. I don’t need it to be private for me or S. but I do want to protect our family. Maybe some day we will be able to ‘come out’ of the dungeon, so to speak but right now I am fine with how it is. ~ wink ~ ❤ ❤ ❤


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