Feminism in BDSM might sound as if there is a conflict between them but I feel as if they can compliment each other. It also depends on what you feel feminism actually is.

I picked this picture because to me, she looks strong and sexy. She also looks as though she knows her self worth.

I guess this questions of feminism is really about what you think it is or what it brings to each and every one of your lives. I do not believe in burning my bra and being militant, trying to shove my ideals down the throat of men. I also think feminism has emasculated some men and I sure do not want that. I like my man to have a little cave man in him ~ wink ~ .

To me feminism has given me the knowledge that I am equal to a man. I can work hard and you better pay me the same rate a man earns when I do the same job! When I am with my beloved S. and he has me suspended in ropes and perhaps using some form of impact play we are equal. We just approach equality from different angles. It takes a great deal of strength and trust to do what my darling does to me and it takes the same amount of trust from me. He is not greater than me when he is dominant and I am not less than him when I submit. Both directions we take involves a great deal of strength.

Does S. objectify me? No, I am not just some tits, pussy and ass for his use. He always sees me as a complete person and I love that. Okay yes, he will use language during a scene that he would never use out of it. That is because I love it too and it is not not just him.

There are somethings that I adore that makes some feminists shudder but I don’t give a fig! I love it when S. opens a door for me or holds my chair while I sit down. I adore it if he orders a meal for me from the menu. I think it is sexy when he picks out my clothes to wear. If I wear my collar out it makes me feel proud and strong but incredibly feminine too.

There are times I love to serve him, in a submissive way but also in our every day lives. I love making coffee for him, cooking for him, I love keeping the house nice (That is for me really as I don’t like mess but I am not so OCD about it now). I love to give massages with scented oils, really loads of body things like showering with him to scrub his back, give him a foot rub or just cuddle with him. He also gives back to me in these things. Whatever I do for him is appreciated and that makes a lot of difference to me. As a spiritual person I believe what you give comes back to you three fold and I have to say that really is true.

So am I a rampaging feminist? No I’m not but I am strong, thoughtful and loyal as fuck. I really do believe there is a place for feminism in BDSM.

S. and K.

5 Comments on “Feminism in BDSM

  1. She has to make the coffee in the morning I can’t find the on switch before I’ve had coffee sort of a catch-22 on my part. Such a well written post darling I couldn’t agree more

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  2. I consider myself a feminist and I make no apologies for it. I think it does belong in BDSM and I actually think it’s a main reason as to why I am able to enjoy the lifestyle.

    The things that feminists have made available to us is choice and equal amounts of respect. If I didn’t feel I had that, I wouldn’t be comfortable in doing ‘this’. I can choose to stop at any time, ladies of the past didn’t have that right. To me, that’s the deciding factor. *wink*

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