Opening this blog I had no idea how much of myself I would be exposing to my readers. I wanted to build something that explained BDSM in a way that was not judgemental and offered different options for you to discover. I wanted to inject some humour because it is meant to be joyful. Then as I wrote I opened up myself, my life’s experiences so that you can see the dynamics of S. and I. We have taken years to get to this place and we have had our ups and downs, by opening up our experiences I hope it has better shown how it works for us. We by no means say this is the only way to be, we only offer what works best for us.
I do have to admit I do enjoy putting more of myself into each post. Does that make me an exhibitionist? Perhaps.
I have seen so much written about this subject and quite honestly so much is quite dangerous. I am speaking about Fet and all of those twue Doms (These are men that are normally young and they try to say they know everything about BDSM but they really don’t) who try to say their way is only the Twue way. Don’t get me wrong, there are loads of really wonderful Doms and submissives on Fetlife. You just have to be discerning. A good Dom will not push you for sex without first taking the time to really get to know you and he will be quite open so you can get to know them. A one night stand can be dangerous. Please check out Safety Issues for some guidelines.
But back to the subject. If you met me you would see I am quite shy. You will also see I have confidence in who and what I am. I am proud of this side of me and I know without a shadow of a doubt that S. is the best man for me. He would never bring anything cruel or damaging to me in our dynamics. Having said that he can rise to the occasion should I need a stronger hand. That is never meted out as punishment. This is only for our pleasure. It can touch my limits but never push them. It is not in him to hurt me. That is a very fine line at times but I trust him completely and he trusts me to yell my safe word should he nudge my limits too far. Accidents happen and we can live with that.
You also know about my physical challenges. S. has them too so we are sort of in tune. The biggest sorrow was for me that after total knee replacement in both knees I might never be able to kneel again. To me that is heartbreaking. The deepest satisfaction I had was kneeling at his feet. It brought him a deep level of arousal from it. Fast Forward. I just googled it and I can kneel!!!!!!! I am so happy I am doing a little chair dance. I just need to place a little padding under my knees and practice stretching my muscles and tendons. I bet all you submissive ladies and men will understand my joy. S. won’t know about this until he reads it ~wink~
So I guess this is my saying to you, welcome to my madness and you are welcome to rummage around. Take from this, just the things that ring true for you and leave the rest. If you want to leave comments please do. If it stimulates you to write what you blogs does for you then I will be happy to have perhaps stimulated your mind.
S. and K.