Opening this blog I had no idea how much of myself I would be exposing to my readers. I wanted to build something that explained BDSM in a way that was not judgemental and offered different options for you to discover.
Month: July 2018
Subspace is a state of mind associated with BDSM activity. It is a pleasant state of mind that submissives love to experience. It is described as floating or feeling detached. A submissive can enter into subspace as a result of the sensations they get from their Dominant. It is a sense of intense focus, and a submissive can lose awareness of everything going on around them.
The difference between the two ideals.
We circle each other around the fire between us, both of us seeing that look in our eyes. The fire emblazons the raging inferno that is our desire. It makes us pant, snarl and circle the fire. This can’t be contained nor smothered by words, as they are like water. The fire turns water to steam.
I have had the courage to look deep within my soul and lurking in the shadows was a savage. Picture a room that is black as jet and even though I wrenched the door open I could see nothing but a cloying, overwhelming, darkness. I could hear the snarls coming from within and for a while I was too frightened to look deeper. Deep, glowing amber eyes opened and the snarling grew louder. I was afraid and the temptation to slam the door closed swamped my mind. I am still clasping the heavy padlock. Then my backbone straightened and I refused to be cowed by this part of me.
Expectations can be a killer of relationships. The pressure of expectations can cause genuine stress and pressure on both a Top and a bottom. With a submissive, a Dom with very high expectations places a huge weight on their partners. Your partner will forgo their own desires simply to try and meet all of yours.
IMHO means in my humble opinion for people who don’t recognise the letters. Blogging is all about opinions well mine is. A lot of people shy away from the word ‘opinionated’. I embrace it I share my opinions with all of you.
If you find yourself in an event or if you mix with people within the dynamic of BDSM there will be protocols for you to follow. I am not one for rules as you may notice and when I am out in any of those places I will act the way S. wants me to. His rules are easy.
There are some kinds of Tops that like the formality of their bottoms kneeling in certain poses to accent their submission. There are many ways to kneel and also to lay. They also each have a name. It is also possible to train your bottom to recognize hand gestures for each pose. I have no problem with people that enjoy that kind of formal conditioning and often they look very beautiful. There are, however, two reason I can’t go along with it.