This is a good thing, not in anyway to start putting you in a place of emotional turmoil. So bear with me and read on. In BDSM a ‘mind fuck’ means a suggestion that will evoke a response from you, usually sexual in nature. Your mind will receive the words then your thoughts will run with them. Nothing else needs to be said and you will provide the stimulation in your mind and focus on that one event. It is a way to turn you on.
IT IS NEVER TO PUT YOU DOWN
There are many forms of mind fuck and lots of them can be really exciting. Again this is a case of degree. The way that my darling S. does it and when he does it is really great. It can be as simple as coming over to me and whispering in my ear, ‘Some time today I am going to fuck your brains out’. I don’t know when or where or what will happen. As you can imagine that arouses me greatly, but it is a mind fuck. I might have to go hours before it happens. As time passes the mind fuck works overtime until the scene begins. By then I am so aroused I become a wild thing. That is the thing about them, they grow in your mind and tease you unmercifully but they take me to another level of arousal.
I have mentioned the pleasant little mind fuck but they can become quite large. Your Top might ring you while you are out and tell you to go to the bathroom and masturbate and to do so every half hour but you are not allowed to cum. That usually comes with the warning ‘I will know if you have orgasmed’. Believe it or not, they will.
There is a great mind fuck you can do to a working person. Ring them and tell them you are dressed sexily and you feel horny. You can tell them you are playing and you will be waiting for them to come home. I will warn you if you do that to your Top expect some sort of retribution. It is usually a highly sexual one or perhaps a spanking.
Sometimes a mind fuck is aimed at making you nervous. A hint of fear exaggerates the arousal. This is something that must be talked about before you allow the scene. It can be something like a heavy spanking scene or a strong bondage scene. That one can make me very wet and a tinge of nervousness. I know S. so well he doesn’t have to tell me what will happen.
It can be a teasing mind fuck like, ‘I’ve been to the adult shop and I bought something for you, perhaps we can try it tonight.’
If your Top is at work and you are home they may call you with a list of things to do, like say I will be at home a 6pm I want you to shower and then lay naked on the floor near the front door. Keep edging until I am there.
These are teases for the Top to use not for the submissive but if you have a wonderful Dominant they might enjoy it reversed. When I say there will be retribution it is usually of a sexual nature or a playful spanking session. It maybe discipline but nothing harsh. If you want to play a mind fuck on your Top then take a sexy picture of yourself and send it to him. You will be amazed just how well that works.
The nature of a mind fuck is for pleasure not for punishment. Negotiate for them but leave a little wiggle room for your Top to use his own imagination.
If your Top begins to do unhealthy mind fucks that leave you feeling less than you actually are or makes your confidence fall, or downright scares the hell out of you please either negotiate or leave. This should enhance your life together not to make you feel oppressed.
Have fun and be safe
Sir and kitten.
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