Month: June 2018

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Okay I’m Noisy

First of all I need to say I am shy but I have a bit of a problem. I am very rambunctious at times. I giggle a lot, I squeal, I scoff, I even snort and that is in real life with S.

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How to Set Guidelines

A lot of lifestyle relationships has a list of guidelines set for the bottom and also for Tops. I say a guidelines because to me they are guidelines not intractable rules. I don’t like something that restricts me from being me. I don’t mind sharing a few things that I have but I won’t publish all of the guidelines as they are deeply personal. What I will do is offer a few suggestions that might make your own lists.

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Why We Don’t Need Labels

One of my pet peeves at the moment is labels I was thinking about it last night and then it came to me, what other kinds of people could be labelled as we are in the kink lifestyle. Well…. Let’s take a look at the Vanillas of the world.

A Case of the Blues (Music)

Both S. and I love the blues. He is a fan of older blues artists where I prefer the newer stuff. I will start with one he really loves. I hope you enjoy the ones I find. It does take a large hunt through You Tube so please excuse adverts. Had to put this first because S. loves this artist. You know S. is … Read More A Case of the Blues (Music)

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Alone Tonight

I climb in bed and spread my limbs to suck the coldness out of the sheets. Tonight I sleep alone with darkness all around me. Shadows covering my fears. You are ‘elsewhere’ tonight, wrapped in your own darkness. Does your heart ache over the empty space beside you? Does it match mine, thumping hollowly in the cold expanse of your bed? There is no … Read More Alone Tonight

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Measuring Pain Levels

So for all you bottoms out there that enjoy some discomfort with your sexual scenes, this is about how to work out your pain levels. This is a very important thing to do well.

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The Pleasure of Pain

Different levels of pain

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A Bit of fun

This is just a bit of fun and not be taken seriously. Have a look at the photo’s below and pick a picture you find sexy as a partner if you didn’t have your significant other. Then I will write some stuff under the photo’s for you to see how close they are in nature to your partner.

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Time to talk Tops

Most of the posts I write in here are slanted towards the submissive but I want to dedicate this page just to them the Tops.

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Psychological Mind Fucks

The games we like to play.

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Balance

This is a more difficult subject to quantify but I will do my best without ballsing it up, I hope. The one of the biggest things that is not spoken about often, is finding the balance you need in your lives. Not so much your day to day lives but your kinky life.

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Safe Words and Gestures

I know I have spoken about safety protocols in previous posts but I want to have a post just about safe words and gestures as I think they are some of the most important things in any BDSM. relationships.