The act of submission is one of the most beautiful and powerful things a person can do.
I cannot stress enough that it should never come from a place of weakness. In all other things a good submissive is strong, independent and confident. They are no push-over. They find strength in submission so bring your fire and passion into the mix.
Being submissive does not mean you are submissive to everyone and not for twenty- four hours a day. With Sir and myself we have a way to know exactly when the moment changes. He says the word ‘kitten.’ and I know the scene has begun. In that very moment I have the choice to submit or not. I submit because that is something I adore doing. I give my desires, my passion, my dark desires and my complete trust into his hands. Nothing is more exciting as that simple thing.
For most submissives there will be one Dominant and no other man/woman will ever experience your submissiveness unless you wish it. There is, of course, situations that change this but you will have discussed it prior to it happening.
To the Dominant one of the biggest thrills for him is the trust you bestow on him. The calm within you as you kneel before him and the fire of your arousal will be a huge turn on.
To me the biggest thrill is the sound of the word ‘kitten’. It brings the knowledge that for however long this scene lasts I am his utterly. It also is true to say that even when we are not in a scene I retain a bit of my submission in the fore of my mind and act accordingly.
Now after saying that Dominance and Submission is a strong dynamic. One yields one controls. It is when you offer your respect, your trust and ultimately your sexual needs to your Dominant. You will have a strong desire to please them. Your Dominant gives you the promise that they will cherish the gift of your submission, and ensure that if you become overwhelmed by what is happening to you, you are kept safe. They will also give you the knowledge they will not push your limits, unless discussed prior to the scene. They will give you respect at all times. It is the time you let them take over within the bounds of submission and allow them to show you their dominance.
There are a few things you must understand. During this play they will be in charge and if they want to they can deny you sexual satisfaction. They will play but within your limits. They will also enjoy every minute of it. I am also sure you will enjoy it just as much.
During the rest of your time, outside of play, your life will be almost normal and like any other relationship. In my relationship we share most things as equals and even when I submit we meet as equals, just from different directions. If I become bratty he knows the best way to stop that and it starts with a single word and that word is ‘kitten’. I instantly revert to my submissive nature. It’s a real frustration when he does that but he only ever does it if I am being a pain in the ass and the ‘debate’ is coming from either me being bratty or if I am being unreasonable. It is also a real fight stopper. I never flounce out of the room any more or yell and shout as we both dislike that.
I love to take care of my Sir but as he constantly says you don’t have to do that and I have to tell him I am not being submissive, I am being loving. Then again he does things for me that might not seem very dominant and it is because he loves me. It is give and take.
Not every dominant and submissive relationships are the same. Set your own rules but make them fluid.
Your whole existence is not about Dom’s and sub’s. Your relationship will encircle it and it will make you stronger.
There is one thing I would have you ponder…. Great fantasies sometimes are not so good in real life. You need to communicate and make the relationship as real as you can make it
Have fun and be safe
Sir and kitten
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