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I have been going through my early posts and they are a little stilted and without pizazz so I have been rewriting and re-posting. I hope you find them interesting.
A bit of fun
This is just a bit of fun and not be taken seriously. Have a look at the photo’s below and pick a picture you find sexy as a partner if you didn’t have your significant other. Then I will write some stuff under the photo’s for you to see how close they are in nature to your partner. This is just for fun and not to be taken seriously. …more
Time to talk Tops
Most of the posts I write in here are slanted towards the submissive but I want to dedicate this page just to the Tops. …more
Psychological Mind Fucks
Information revised and updated.
This is a good thing, not in anyway to start putting you in a place of emotional turmoil. So bear with me and read on. In BDSM a ‘mind fuck’ means a suggestion that will evoke a response from you, usually sexual in nature. Your mind will receive the words then your thoughts will run with them. …more
This is a more difficult subject to quantify but I will do my best without ballsing it up, I hope. The one of the biggest things that is not spoken about often, is finding the balance you need in your lives. Not so much your day to day lives but your kinky life. …more
Information, revised and reposted
Everyone has their own idea of what a Dominant is and normally they get it all wrong and mix up stereotypical images for the true meaning of it. When I first talked to my darling S. I was looking for a Master like my first one, which is pretty sad if you have read anything about him. …more
Safe Words and Gestures
I know I have spoken about safety protocols in previous posts but I want to have a post just about safe words and gestures as I think they are some of the most important things in any BDSM. relationships. …more
Information, revised and added to.
As a child I would play cowboys and Indians with my friends and I was always the girl that was kidnapped and tied to the tree. No one rescued me and sometimes the little beasts would forget to untie me. …more
Information, revised and added to.
To me Limits should be discussed before the relationship begins but there is a way that a limit can happen even if you have been together for years. That is if you try something new and you don’t enjoy it. Then it can become a hard or a soft limit. …more
Beauty vs Ugly
I will start this post off with some positive words but bear in mind a rant is coming. The beauty of a woman can be in her face, her skin, her shape, her body even her hair. She might have a beautiful smile or have a kindness she shows the world. She may write beautiful words or have lovely pictures of herself on her blog. However, to me true beauty comes from her heart, soul and mind. The same is true of men too…. more
Letting Go… Submission
Have you ever stood on the very end of a high diving board and felt really scared but then you get the courage to dive off and for those scant seconds it feels like you are flying. …more
Information… this was posted months ago but I have reworked it.
Masochism is the enjoyment of things like pain and humiliation. If your kink leans this way do not feel ‘bad’ about it as the world is full of people that share your desire. As long as your welfare is the key thing in the experience then explore it. …more
Am I alone in having a moment that is wild, uninhibited and out of control, a moment that is like a touch light to send up some blazing fireworks inside your body? It can hit at any time and anywhere. …more
Let me Rock You, Music
Everyone meeds a little music in their lives… more
Me and my Shadows
All too often people with blogs like this, show different things in BDSM, information concerning each aspect of the lifestyle, and even post funny stories just as I have. They project such calm acceptance and happiness, oh happy happy joy joy. A veritable picture of sunshine and happiness. …more
Gallery 10 All Males
I tried to pick all races, ages and body type. I find men to be fascinating and it was about time I put a gallery in of them. I could have been called sexist. So ladies and any men that enjoy the male form please enjoy. If you do like the photos here you are welcome to copy them for your own blogs. If any pictures are private ones I will mark them. …more
Oh no, a Brat!
There is something brewing inside of me. All this freedom I have is not helping me. It is like a boil trying to work it’s way out of me. It’s all hot and painful. I can feel it burrowing out of me. …more
The Soul of Submission
Submission is deeper than your mind, stronger than sexual desires and is rooted deep in the soul. It isn’t a need to be weak because submission requires strength and it is not about pain. It is offering your submission to a Dominant. It is a powerful dynamic that can fulfil you in a way that feeds the soul. …more
Paragon of Domliness
I am a Paragon of Domliness and I have been the most amazing Dominant all my life. I am twenty-three years old and every moment of my life I order women around. Women live to serve me. I mean ALL women. With one glance from me they fall to their knees ready to serve Me. …more
I see your belt threaded through your jeans belt loops and my heart skips a beat. It is that belt. It looks very much like any other belt but it isn’t. I watched as you made it, not understanding what I was seeing. There is the stainless steal fixings, buckle and pretty copper rivets. You catch me looking at it and you ask, ‘Is there a problem kitten?’ ...more
I see you
I see you. There are times I look at you and yes, I can see what you are doing, but under it all I see so much more. I can see you hunched over the bench as you work your magic with leather. I know your mind is consumed and focused and your strong hands move over the thing you are making, be it a whip, or cuffs or even a flogger …more
Mental Illness and the Lifestyle
This is a subject I feel passionately about as it has been a part of my journey. I read a post by nijntje from nijntje & The Bear about mental illness called Give me wings to fly. and it prompted me to write this. …..more
Music pure and simple …more
In My Darling’s Eyes
I can get lost in his eyes, looking into their depthless wonder and see my whole world in them. He has so many looks. The one that makes him frown when he doesn’t understand something. He looks at me and hopes to see an answer in my eyes. Sometimes there is but sometimes there isn’t. Do I see defeat in his eyes then? Never. As long as my belief in him is there in my eyes he will never give up. …more
This post will require the reader to dig into their imagination, to journey along with me to understand my vision for this flight of fancy.
Picture this… a road of brightly lit shop windows in the 1800’s. It looks slightly Dickensian and lets make it a Christmas theme as Christmas is a joyful time. (Okay that is maybe not quite so true. Use your imagination.) There are old fashioned lamps along the road. Why not go the whole hog and have horse and carriages? Hey why not? It IS my vision. …..more
Journal Entry (please do not copy this picture)
I have been looking at some pictures of beautiful ladies posted on here and Fetlife. I am female and I love looking at them but I think I might be seeing them in a different way to other people. …more
Penises and Testicles
Ok I am a girl and do not have said body parts and they totally fascinate me. I mean you only have to touch a penis a little bit and it starts to swell, poking his head up. I mean the obvious applications of said cock and balls can bring some really intense sexual encounters, but apart from that they are still rather nifty. I mean when you guys pee, …more
Things I should have known about before my first BDSM relationship
It would have been great if I had known these things before starting in my first relationship. I was eighteen at the time. They were learned the hard, painful way and if one person reads this and takes my warnings seriously, it will be worth exposing myself like this. …more
These are words of advice I sort have chosen for myself to keep me safe. They are simple really but they are mine. Take the time to look at some for yourself. …more
I am 100% Of Everything
I am taking the test; you know that BDSM test, the one that will shape what people see of me. I am doing the long test and I answering how I feel people would like to see me so I answered I absolutely strongly agree 100%. I am answering that way with all these questions and I even answer 100% to questions I didn’t even understand. …more
Well I am still riding the glow after my experience of the Switchy kind. I am actually having thoughts of where this can go. I have never embraced a new thing quite as strongly as I have this time. I have images rolling slowly through my mind. I am not going to mention the ideas because, well because Sir reads everything I write here and he loves surprizes. …more
For those of you that have no idea what a switch is, *label alert* a person that likes to be submissive and able to switch into Dominance mode. Quite a while ago Sir tried to tell me I was possibly a switch. I shook my head, backed away and said I am in no way a switch…more
Labels within B.D.S.M. are common and so very misleading. Take Dominant, everyone knows it is a person that takes control of a sexual encounter and orders a submissive to do anything they want, right? They also dominate out of the bedroom, running the household, right? …Wrong...more
I thought it time for a new collection of images. I hope you like seeing them as much as I do collecting them. I must apologise if I repeat pictures...more
A Moment in Time
Have you ever have a moment in time that seems to hold you there for what seems like an eternity? When everything comes together in one complete, perfect, moment and it rocks your world from the depths right up to the pinnacle…more
Doing what I said I wouldn’t
If you have read some of my posts you will have read that I have been battling breast cancer. I had a double mastectomy and then new implants and I had my ovaries removed...more
A – Z of Sex, My Version
I have seen someone I respect on WordPress has decided to do an A – Z of sexual things. I am going to follow suit but I get a bit slack when it comes to daily posts so I thought I would do them in one go. So here goes…more
My Daily Submission
My submission is not simply something I do during scenes. Yes, it is at the fore of a scene unless it is primal. Primal is that wild animal sex where I let go of all my submissiveness and become a tigress. Sir is just as wild. He is the tiger to my tigress. It is purely sex. No binding, no sweet submission just pure animal fucking with slaps and scratches and biting….more
I have been renovating this grand old mansion now for three months and it has been a great deal of hard work. It is going to take an awful lot to get it close to it’s former glory. This home has a personality and I am aware it has its own strange sounds. It has it moans and groans when the wind blows, creaks and rattles at night and I am learning about them all… more
My headspace is sometimes governed by the day to day things like running a house, cleaning and buying groceries. In fact some of my time is caught up in those pursuits and it ticks over nicely. Well that and this blog. I really like blogging. I am actually a person that loves to read, listen to music and dance naked in the garden. However I have not actually tried dancing naked in the garden but the idea does appeal. It is way too cold to try but maybe this summer…more
I don’t know how many of you belong to Fetlife but at the moment there is a really big ‘Hot Potato’ doing the rounds about safety for women and a few of the women there have decided to deactivate their accounts for three days…more
Contradictions in me or in my submission
Within my mind I have many contradictions that affect my life with Sir. I have to wonder if all submissives have the same contradictions or perhaps different ones. I can’t speak for Sir and he said he is going to do a list from the Dominant side…more
I think it is time for some new images I know you enjoy them. I have a growing interest more erotic images rather than porn. I find them to be very evocative...more
Sir and I would like to make the blog a little more social. I am naturally drawn to making friends, especially in the kink community. It’s nice to know there are great people out there enjoying themselves… so I thought why not try to get to know each other? I also thought this might be a great way to do it…more
Observation is one very large and underrated subject. It is essential for both the Dominant and submissive. A Dominant needs to look for so many signs in his submissive. He needs to see when she is happy, sad, sexual, or emotional. It is vital to him, it is the watchfulness and you need you be aware of it. A simple glance can send a whole conversation to your Dominant… more
I am a member of Fetlife.com and I have the blog here and nothing seems to phase me in the realms of B.D.S.M. I peered in the windows with my safety net, my relationship with Sir, I watch on, not being judgemental. I am very accepting of anything that brings pleasure to the people involved. I want to let you know about all the roles I have encountered but try not to say, well that is damn weird, because every genuine person is entitled to their predilections…more
My Relationship with my Breasts
Okay this may sound a strange topic but it will become abundantly clear why that title fits me. I have had a double mastectomy recently and I have now got implants…more
I have used the notification Trigger Warning on a post. I also say what will follow like a consensual/non consensual scene. I do that to warn people who suffer from PTSD…more
A Show Of Strength
This is for all submissives out there that have been emotionally/physically hurt by a Dominant…more
TRIGGER WARNING: CONSENSUAL / NON CONSENNSUAL POST TO FOLLOW
It is midnight I am walking down the city street and the hiss of tires on the wet road almost drown out the sounds of the engines. I have an umbrella but the wind shifts all over the place whistling down alleys and the roads and directs the light drizzle onto me…more
TRIGGER WARNING – PAIN AND WHIPPING DESCRIPTION
I have dark desires and I have shared them with my Sir but so far we have not really gone into them all up until now. I am both afraid and exhilarated by them… more
I am enjoying these pictures are from copy right free Pixabay because they evoke more of a reaction than the more pornographic images do. These have soft edges and moody lighting and that appeals to my artistic side. They arouse on a deeper level…more
Just Things On My Mind
I noticed something that I do not do that other blog writers do and that is to just speak of my feelings and life. Not all my life is sexual, maybe only 30% but it doesn’t take much to get me there…more
Fantasies, flights of fancy, dreams we weave. I am speaking of sexual fantasies and often, they become part of our journey through our sexuality. Within the whole BDSM scene, to have fantasies and to go after them takes a great deal of courage…more
A Twue Dom
What makes a twue Dom?
Well they are easy to find during the hunting season/(it is always hunting season) They wear dark suits and white silk shirts. Even to the gym./so you will be dry cleaning and mending them a lot…more
What Kind Of Base
There is one important question that I haven’t talked about and it should have been one of the first. It is about foundations and what you come together and build on. I guess it really comes down to what you are looking for…more
Collaring for a submissive or slave is a milestone that should be celebrated rather than just slipping it around your neck and that is that. I think if it is a ritual it means more. I also feel a collar should be earned through loyalty, trust, love, and a deep need to serve your Dominant or Master…more
What I Wanted
I never knew what I wanted until you told me. Sounds terrible doesn’t it? Would it sound better if I said I love this man with my whole heart? I met him when I felt pretty fractured…more
More images that are very beautiful. I hope you enjoy them…more
We are a couple living in a committed 24/7 Dom/sub relationship that is very monogamous. We have been together for quite a few years. I am forty (well almost) and Sir is a little older. We are not looking for anyone to join us we just want to promote a good slant on the lifestyle and to debunk all the crazy ideas... more
Slavery is not a lifestyle all submissives wish to enter and that is fine. It is also fine if you find the idea of being a slave to be something you would like to try. I am a submissive but I have also been a slave…more
You Are Amazing
You run your fingers through my soul and breathe life over my lips. Each touch electrifies my nerves and makes my essence flow from the core of me. You hold my heart in your hands and coax it to beat stronger, fiercer,…more
This is a subject given to me by my Sir and it is a very important thing to do. I have mentioned before that, at the beginning of a porn clip, the ‘Dominant‘ and ‘submissive‘ of the clip will discuss what they enjoy…more
Lately you’ve been on my mind and I don’t know why
But I am wondering if you would recognize
The scared child has turned into a badass woman…more
How Can I Tell?
I have heard a couple questions in my life about how can a Dominant can tell how much pain is inflicted with things like Paddles, floggers, whips and rulers. Well this is a large question. Of course it depends on how hard you strike…more
I Slapped His Face
Trigger warning, violence
I get into strange moods and sometimes that runs against my submissiveness. Believe it or not, Sir actually enjoys it, so please hold back your disbelief and enjoy the ride. I know I certainly did…more
Coming Out Of The Dungeon
So much of this life I lead is done behind closed doors, hidden from friends and family. I know there are many others like me. I mean not many of us have ‘come out’, so to speak. I have to wonder why not? …more
What Is Love?
Love is a hot, writhing thing, gathering up people as it rolls around.
Caught in the undulating energy, stealing your will and sensibilities…more
Fire in the Darkness
He takes me to a darkened room
and tethers hands up high
I can escape the coming fire…more
I am tied, I am bound, cannot move. I close my eyes and start to fly.
My body aches, my body’s bent, I feel your hand around my neck.
There is no time, there is no grace. My body floats locked into place….more
Night Of the Vampire
I see you coming towards me, down the darkened ally and I shiver. Perhaps it was not a good idea to take the shortcut. I look behind me and there is no one else around so I am alone but for him. He has on a long dark coat with the collar pulled up. His hands are in his pockets and his head is down…more
The Education of Elizabeth
She had just agreed to become his submissive and he had told her to undress… slowly. She had blushed and to begin with she rushed. With a word he stopped her and made her slow down…more
This is a very important subject that should have been put close to the beginning of the blog so for that I am sorry.
NO MEANS NO
What Am I
The first thing I want to say here is I hate labels. They quantify, constrict us and lead us to different places and some of those places are not where we hoped to be. I mean if you try to live up to a stereotypical role you become locked into a situation that maybe has things you don’t want to do… more
Things that make me moan
I was talking to Sir this morning and I find that very often He says something to me that makes me moan, so I thought why not write about those things. Then I thought maybe you could add what makes you moan in pleasure in the comments. So here goes…more
Sharing is a pretty self evident subject but it might be worth talking about it with your Dominant before you enter into your relationship. I made sure Sir knew almost immediately that I didn’t want to be shared with other men. … more
Submissives kneeling in a number of poses are very pleasing to Dominants and Masters. They find this an act of complete surrender and that is something only the submissive can do. They might have seen pictures of girls posing but it is much better in real life…more
Open To Our Readers
I would like to throw the blog open to all of you and give you a chance to suggest a topic for us to talk about. I will include a contact us link and you can leave comments in the comments box…more
Fetish means sexual attraction to or arousal at something sexual or nonsexual such as an object or a part of a body, such as ‘he has a fetish for feet’…more
Just For My Sir
Journal Entry for Sir
Just a collection of music clips and photos…more
Pearls, Collars, Corsets, Gloves and Latex.
Pearls are very sexy and they can also be use as a wonderful sexual tool, dragged against the clit it can drive a girl crazy…more
Just bits and bobs
This is a page of different things that I will do my best to describe. They are things that might not merit a whole page of description. I will keep adding as we go along…more
Even more pictures for you to enjoy…more
For Prospective Dominants
This is an article for all you new Dominants or if you are considering becoming a Dominant.
This is a time for you to discover what kind of things turn you on when you think about being Dominant…more
This is a subject that Sir and I have in life. Fluid consent is with us 24/7 and because of that it works best for us.
Let me explain exactly what it is…more
This is a big subject to cover considering it is just a smallish part of the female body. These are the outer part of a woman’s femineity. They are the thing many men notice first…more
Ok people don’t choke or panic, we have arrived at one of the things that a lot of people baulk at. Putting your mind at ease anal sex can be really enjoyable…more
NEVER LET ANYONE FORCE OR MANIPULATE YOU INTO DOING THIS. .
A BIG WHINGE
This has nothing to do with BDSM but I want a bit of a whinge about it. When did politeness and respect ever disappear from the world????…more
I thought this to be something I needed to write about and it rings true, or should ring true for everyone. It sort of addresses the fine balance of any D/s relationship…more
Sub Drop / Top Drop
Drop may occur for a Top or bottom and they can sometimes be different where the Top seems to suffer to a lesser degree it has enough merit to mention in this article…more
People sometimes believe that intimacy means sex and that is so far from the truth. The intimacy I share with Sir touches my heart, my mind and my soul. It is the conduit that carries our love into each other… more
Some beautiful images for you to enjoy…more
This is something that can be so very pleasurable or one of the hardest things to have to do. It is the act of masturbating to the point of orgasm then stopping and being denied the ultimate satisfaction. It can be a discipline or a delightful tease depending on your kink… more
Just a note to our readers
At this moment in time I have a very serious health problem that requires me to have chemotherapy. I have had Radiotherapy and having something to write for, has given me something to occupy my down time… more
Now I expect everyone reading this will understand the mechanics of oral sex. Basically it is the stimulation of the genitals with the mouth and tongue. Simple really. However, there are a few things I like to bear in mind. Now I am going to have to be a little crude…more
Yet more pictures for you to enjoy… more
What a Dominant Does to a Submissive
I could make broad strokes of my writing with a paintbrush that would not give an accurate vision so I will keep this strictly to me and how being submissive to my Sir has affected my life and what he has done to me. That sounds ominous but please read on…more
Torment vs Torture
Words, words, words… they have different meanings but they are powerful words and can misguide you. A lot of people would say those two words mean the same thing but to me they mean something entirely different. Bare in mind I am not the all powerful god of knowing but in this site I can only tell you how I feel… more
In the world today there are mean spirited people that sometimes gives us their hate. You will not find it here. You will find messages of celebration in the diversity of mankind. So look at these images and understand that every person is beautiful… more
Orgasm or Forced Orgasm
Orgasm, you might say, seems easy, but there is a high percentage of women that have never achieved an orgasm. However, in this day and age sex is more open to discussion. Men seem to find this whole process easy and if they do not have a partner, they are able to take matters into their own hands. Women too… more
Some more pictures for you to enjoy. If you have a comment to make please use the section at the bottom of the page…. more
Safety Before Kinks
I have spoken with Sir about this page and I had to think carefully about the kinds of kinks we discuss in here. There are some that I find difficult to speak of, not because they are nasty or bad or shameful… more
I guess what I should say here perhaps this could be the tool box of a budding BDSM relationship. The basic ones to get are:- … more
This is a page about Pain vs Masochism. Read it while keeping in mind your own Limits. It is a place to experiment with your partner… more
After every scene there will be a time where you both flop on the bed together and cuddle. It is the afterglow and a good time to talk about how you enjoyed yourself and to make sure your partner knows it was incredible… more
Punishment vs Discipline
This is a lesson my Sir taught me and it is an important one. There is a massive difference between Punishment and Discipline. If you do something wrong and your Dominant picks it up then expect discipline or punishment… more
Humiliation sounds terrible but it can be exciting to some submissives. It can also be fun.
Mild forms of humiliation such as:-
- Being made to stand in the corner as discipline. It can be for an hour or more and you feel so embarrassed…. more
Subspace is a state of mind associated with BDSM
It is described as floating or feeling detached. A submissive can enter into subspace as a result of the sensations they get from their Dominant… more
The Basics of BDSM
As this is the very beginning of this sojourn into BDSM, Sir and I will start with the basics.
It doesn’t get more basic than this. B bondage, D dominance, S sadism and M masochism.
There are so many myths surrounding the whole BDSM lifestyle and I hope we can help…more
This is one huge subject so Sir and I will open it and keep updating as we go on.
The first signs are enjoying your hands pinned down or your fantasies will revolve around rope. The idea of handcuffs excites you. Give yourself some time to experiment.
However, this does not always mean you are submissive. If you are you will have many ideas in your head about submitting to a Dominant… more
From time to time I will be posting erotic art for your enjoyment. All images I got from Pixabay.com and are copy right free. So please kick back and enjoy them. If you have a comment to make please use the section at the bottom of the page….more
The Journey Begins
Thanks for joining us! Sir and kitten’s guide for a great BDSM relationship…more