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I have been going through my early posts and they are a little stilted and without pizazz so I have been rewriting and re-posting. I hope you find them more interesting.
Opening this blog I had no idea how much of myself I would be exposing to my readers. I wanted to build something that explained BDSM in a way that was not judgemental and offered different options for you to discover.
Punishment vs Discipline
This is a lesson my Sir taught me and it is an important one. There is a massive difference between Punishment and Discipline. If you do something wrong and your Dominant picks it up then expect discipline or punishment…
Information (updated and reposted)
Subspace is a state of mind associated with BDSM
It is described as floating or feeling detached. A submissive can enter into subspace as a result of the sensations they get from their Dominant…
The Beat of the Drums
We circle each other around the fire between us, both of us seeing that look in our eyes. The fire emblazons the raging inferno that is our desire. It makes us pant, snarl and circle the fire. This can’t be contained nor smothered by words, as they are like water. The fire turns water to steam.
The Savage In My Soul
I have had the courage to look deep within my soul and lurking in the shadows was a savage. Picture a room that is black as jet and even though I wrenched the door open I could see nothing but a cloying, overwhelming, darkness. I could hear the snarls coming from within and for a while I was too frightened to look deeper. Deep, glowing amber eyes opened and the snarling grew louder. I was afraid and the temptation to slam the door closed swamped my mind. I am still clasping the heavy padlock. Then my backbone straightened and I refused to be cowed by this part of me.
Expectations and Perfection
Expectations can be a killer of relationships. The pressure of expectations can cause genuine stress and pressure on both a Top and a bottom. With a submissive, a Dom with very high expectations places a huge weight on their partners. Your partner will forgo their own desires simply to try and meet all of yours.
IMHO means in my humble opinion for people who don’t recognise the letters. Blogging is all about opinions well mine is. A lot of people shy away from the word ‘opinionated’. I embrace it I share my opinions with all of you. Even the dictionary places some really bad connotations to the word and it is a long list.
If you find yourself in an event or if you mix with people within the dynamic of BDSM there will be protocols for you to follow. I am not one for rules as you may notice and when I am out in any of those places I will act the way S. wants me to. His rules are easy.
There are some kinds of Tops that like the formality of their bottoms kneeling in certain poses to accent their submission and they like them to learn them all. There are many ways to kneel and also to lay. They also each have a name. It is also possible to train your bottom to recognize hand gestures for each pose. I have no problem with people that enjoy that kind of formal conditioning and often they look very beautiful. There are, however, two reason I can’t go along with it.
Here is a challenge for you. Write 50 things about yourself that we might not know. They don’t have to be earth shattering, just interesting.
Not Always The Same
I want to write this in a way that does not put down the nature of this post at all, and I will put it in the deeply sexual nature of what happened to me tonight. More over it was with my Alpha Male, my wonderful S. and it is not a lone experience.
He Loves Me Strong
My darling S. has helped me through many minefields since we met over 12 years ago. I was a lost person, lost in memories and abuse. Step by step he helped me through the toughest of times. Gradually I became strong and today I am able to stand on my own and make my own choices in life.
The Black Dog
Information and a Journal Entry.
TRIGGER WARNING: SUICIDE AND MENTAL HEALTH
I have just watched a movie on Netflix called Hannah Gadsby: Nanette. It’s about a comedian from Tasmania called Hannah Gadsby and it is one of the best comedy shows I have ever seen. Hannah is gay and rather masculine looking but the thing that shines through is her humanity. She is quitting comedy but you need to watch the documentary.
She Touched Herself
I issued a request of kitten. I wanted to watch her playing with herself but I wanted her to do it in the nastiest, dirtiest way she could think of. I love to watch her body when she agrees to indulge me with a kinky request and my mind is buried firmly in the voyeuristic pursuits when it comes to her.
1. Picture the child you once were, what did that child do very well?
My early childhood revolved around books and writing. I have always loved words. I can remember copying the children’s story of the three billygoats Gruff. My grandmother always bought me books as presents, normally the classics like Black Beauty, What Katy Did and Treasure Island. I read them over and over. At thirteen I discovered Lord of the Rings and I swore when I was older I would write books like those and I did.
The Patient Submissive
This is about the Patient Submissive just like every Twue Dom deserves.
I once started using a strippers pole as a way to keep fit. The one thing that came out of it was I was pretty good at it. I realized I could make a passable stripper. We are going to get a pole but I have come to realize I am going to have to start learning all over again.
Strip it down
Information and journal entry
This has nothing to do with taking your clothes off. More to do with your mind which can fill you with fear, guilt, and lack of confidence. This is about before you take your clothes off.
This Girl Is On Fire
I must been the only girl in the world that does not like masturbating unless it happens in a scene. Yes, when I am desperate I will do it, but I don’t fantasize when I do. To me it is just a physical release when my body demands it. If S. is ill he gives me permission to orgasm when I have a bath, which I do every day. I just don’t masturbate every day, just take the bath. I had to look at this and wonder if it was a lessening of my libido? It can’t be that because whenever S. is ready for a scene, my engine is revving. I also don’t have religious beliefs that prevent me.
Sad Songs and Love songs
I have selected these ballads because I like them. There are no hidden meaning in any of them. I might have picked it because they might be classics or the sound of the singers voice. I know some of them are rock power ballads but I love them too Please just enjoy.
Body image is a thing that we all have, yet it isn’t talked about as much as it should. Ask anyone what part of their body they love they will usually um and ah about it. Ask a person what they hate about their body they will answer quickly and also have a list.
I thought I would just write about life that winds on along. I have been posting a lot in the last few days and that is because S. has been ill with flu. He has been very sick and he needed pampering. Mostly he drinks lots of fluids, takes his meds and sleeps. On top of that he has been going through a lot of tests that have been time consuming but we are getting to the bottom of something he has suffered with for years.
Mystery Blog Award Nomination
What Is Mystery Blogger Award?
“Mystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging; and they do it with so much love and passion.
– Okoto Enigma( The creator of this award)
I have to thank Kat Kinx for this nomination. She is a wonderful lady and a great blogger. Her posts are wonderful.
- Put the award logo/image on your blog
- List the rules.
- Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
- Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well
- Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
- You have to nominate 10 – 20 people
- Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
- Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question (specify)
- Share a link to your best post(s)
Three things about myself
- I love to laugh.
- I love to write both in my blog and my books
- I love painting (pictures) even though I am not Van Gogh I keep trying
Questions that I need to answer:
- If you looked at your life and yourself.. what would you like to advise others to teach people how to treat one another? Honour, respect, and damned good manners plus how to keep themselves safe.
- If you had to change the world I would love you to list what it would be and why? Kat we all want world peace. I think I would remove all borders so there was no fighting over them. I would also make each country pick a willing champion to fight for their people instead of sending all their young people to die. I would also teach them to be accepting.
- Mental Health is an issue in this society at this moment.. What is your thoughts of how this can change? Do you have anything that could help other people in helping them get better? list at least 5 or more and tell us why? I have Bipolar Disorder and for me it took much education and also medications. So many people with mental health problems self medicate with alcohol or drugs. I have had people take a step back from me as if it were contagious. I would tell them to go and see someone and with help, you can find your ‘middle ground’ as I have done. Making that first appointment might be difficult but you would be surprized at the help out there for you. It does work.
I chose the following because I enjoy their blog and want to put more traffic to their blogs. They are all wonderful in their own ways and worth a visit.
Here are my nominations:
The posts I have received the most views on are…
My questions for you are…
The first one is my weird question….. if it is too embarrassing then leave it unanswered.
- What would you consider your most embarrassing moment in your life?
- How would you describe the way your mind works and why?
- If you could throw a dinner party with 5 guests and you could invite anyone to come, even if they have passed away, who would you invite and why?
- If you were stranded on a desert island which three books would you want there?
- What character trait do you cherish the most in a friend?
Good luck to you all and I hope this brings millions of views to your blog and wonderful posts! Thank you Kat Kinx for nominating me! You very much deserve the Award and I love you to bits. Your blog is wonderful. ❤
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Sayings, Funny and Serious (updated.)
I love some of these saying and I hope you enjoy them too. I have shared them you to make you think or even laugh.
Well this is another collection of images I love. They are all copy write free and you can use them on your site. You will also find some older art work that celebrates real women’s body. Yes I know there are pics of models but they are nice eye candy if your eyes run to slim girls. Never mistake them for real women.
One of the most important senses that I cherish is touch. If I have not been touched for a while my skin hungers for it. This can happen is you are either alone or alone for a few days. I yearn for it. Kissing is a touch of lips than leave me breathless. It also affects my body as much as my love of it. The feel of your partners arms around you. It can also be as small as a stroke on my cheek with one finger will have me leaning into the contact.
I was reading a post on my news feed today about Gay People who have come ‘Out of the Closet’ and some that were outed in different ways. It then had me thinking about something I read on Fetlife. There is a furore going on about someone that had been outed (someone making the real name and address of another person. Normally done maliciously.)
Needs and Wants
I am going to delve into my brain here and that can be messy. First I will talk about me as that is the easy bit. This is about what expectations or needs and wants I have from my relationship with S. With needs I don’t have things like I need to be spanked once a week. I mean I love it but it is not what I am talking about. My needs run deeper than that. I need to have respect from S. which I get. I need to have trust. I need to feel cherished and to feel safe.
On Reaching an Impasse
Sometimes couples reach an impasse in their relationship and it can cause friction. I can only describe how S. and I deal with them so if you can gain anything from this I hope it helps you if you have this crop in your own relationship. It doesn’t always have to about sex either but in your real life and all that encompasses.
Safety before Kinks
I have spoken with Sir about this page and I had to think carefully about the kinds of kinks we discuss in here. There are some that I find difficult to speak of, not because they are nasty or bad or shameful. If it is between two consenting adults it is fine but they must research it carefully. However, somethings can alter the body in ways not expected.
More to the Basement
I have added more…
I have been renovating this grand old mansion now for three months and it has been a great deal of hard work. It is going to take an awful lot to get it close to it’s former glory. This home has a personality and I am aware it has its own strange sounds. It has it’s own ghostly moans and whistles when the wind blows.
New Listed Tools
I guess what I should say here perhaps this could be the tool box of a Top/bottom relationship. As promised it has grown.
Respect and Trust
Respect is one of my favourite words. I like the way it flows over the tongue and what it means. It is a word at the forefront of S. and my life. It comes way before BDSM, and is a foundation on which we base life on. Right from the first time we talk it was in every word we spoke to each other.
The Great Mysteries Of Life
These are questions that plague me the most and I bet you have loads of your own. They can drive a person doolallytap (crazy). I thought I might list mine.
A Very Good TV show
I watched a TV show out of the E! Channel about BDSM. It was called the real 50 Shades. As my daughter (18years) was watching too I tried to change the channel quickly before she saw what it was. My eagle-eyed daughter she said ‘change it back I wanted to watch this.’ She has no idea about my alternative personal life and I didn’t want any questions but I could not turn it over if she wanted to see it.
Okay I am Noisy
First of all I need to say I am shy but I have a bit of a problem. I am very rambunctious at times. I giggle a lot, I squeal, I scoff, I even snort and that is in real life with S. You can tell how I am feeling by the tone of my voice. He can tell when I am tired, unwell, annoyed and in a bad mood. He can also tell when I am excited and happy, turned on, or even smug. I am somewhat nonplussed by the skill which he does this.
How to Set Guidelines
A lot of lifestyle relationships has a list of guidelines set for the bottom and also for Tops. I say a guidelines because to me they are guidelines not intractable rules. I don’t like something that restricts me from being me. I don’t mind sharing a few things that I have but I won’t publish all of the guidelines as they are deeply personal. What I will do is offer a few suggestions that might make your own lists.
Why We Don’t Need Labels
One of my pet peeves at the moment is labels I was thinking about it last night and then it came to me, what other kinds of people could be labelled as we are in the kink lifestyle. Well…. Let’s take a look at the Vanillas of the world.
A Case of the Blues (Music)
Both S. and I love the blues. He is a fan of older blues artists where I prefer the newer stuff. I will start with one he really loves. I hope you enjoy the ones I find. It does take a large hunt through You Tube so please excuse adverts.
I climb in bed and spread my limbs to suck the coldness out of the sheets.
The Pleasure of Pain
This is a post about applied pain that brings pleasure to a bottom… Pardon the pun. * evil wink * Read it while keeping in mind your own Limits. It is a place to experiment with your partner but you must never be forced or coerced into it. Not liking pain does not mean you are a bad bottom.
Measuring Pain Levels
So for all you bottoms out there that enjoy some discomfort with your sexual scenes, this is about how to work out your pain levels. This is a very important thing to do well.
A bit of fun
This is just a bit of fun and not be taken seriously. Have a look at the photo’s below and pick a picture you find sexy as a partner if you didn’t have your significant other. Then I will write some stuff under the photo’s for you to see how close they are in nature to your partner. This is just for fun and not to be taken seriously.
Time to talk Tops
Most of the posts I write in here are slanted towards the submissive but I want to dedicate this page just to the Tops.
Psychological Mind Fucks
Information revised and updated.
This is a good thing, not in anyway to start putting you in a place of emotional turmoil. So bear with me and read on. In BDSM a ‘mind fuck’ means a suggestion that will evoke a response from you, usually sexual in nature. Your mind will receive the words then your thoughts will run with them.
This is a more difficult subject to quantify but I will do my best without ballsing it up, I hope. The one of the biggest things that is not spoken about often, is finding the balance you need in your lives. Not so much your day to day lives but your kinky life.
Information, revised and reposted
Everyone has their own idea of what a Dominant is and normally they get it all wrong and mix up stereotypical images for the true meaning of it. When I first talked to my darling S. I was looking for a Master like my first one, which is pretty sad if you have read anything about him.
Safe Words and Gestures
I know I have spoken about safety protocols in previous posts but I want to have a post just about safe words and gestures as I think they are some of the most important things in any BDSM. relationships.
Information, revised and added to.
As a child I would play cowboys and Indians with my friends and I was always the girl that was kidnapped and tied to the tree. No one rescued me and sometimes the little beasts would forget to untie me.
Information, revised and added to.
To me Limits should be discussed before the relationship begins but there is a way that a limit can happen even if you have been together for years. That is if you try something new and you don’t enjoy it. Then it can become a hard or a soft limit.
Beauty vs Ugly
I will start this post off with some positive words but bear in mind a rant is coming. The beauty of a woman can be in her face, her skin, her shape, her body even her hair. She might have a beautiful smile or have a kindness she shows the world. She may write beautiful words or have lovely pictures of herself on her blog. However, to me true beauty comes from her heart, soul and mind. The same is true of men too.
Letting Go… Submission
Have you ever stood on the very end of a high diving board and felt really scared but then you get the courage to dive off and for those scant seconds it feels like you are flying.
Information… this was posted months ago but I have reworked it.
Masochism is the enjoyment of things like pain and humiliation. If your kink leans this way do not feel ‘bad’ about it as the world is full of people that share your desire. As long as your welfare is the key thing in the experience then explore it.
Am I alone in having a moment that is wild, uninhibited and out of control, a moment that is like a touch light to send up some blazing fireworks inside your body? It can hit at any time and anywhere.
Let me Rock You, Music
Everyone meeds a little music in their lives…
Me and my Shadows
All too often people with blogs like this, show different things in BDSM, information concerning each aspect of the lifestyle, and even post funny stories just as I have. They project such calm acceptance and happiness, oh happy happy joy joy. A veritable picture of sunshine and happiness.
Gallery 10 All Males
I tried to pick all races, ages and body type. I find men to be fascinating and it was about time I put a gallery in of them. I could have been called sexist. So ladies and any men that enjoy the male form please enjoy. If you do like the photos here you are welcome to copy them for your own blogs. If any pictures are private ones I will mark them.
Oh no, a Brat!
There is something brewing inside of me. All this freedom I have is not helping me. It is like a boil trying to work it’s way out of me. It’s all hot and painful. I can feel it burrowing out of me.
The Soul of Submission
Submission is deeper than your mind, stronger than sexual desires and is rooted deep in the soul. It isn’t a need to be weak because submission requires strength and it is not about pain. It is offering your submission to a Dominant. It is a powerful dynamic that can fulfil you in a way that feeds the soul.
Paragon of Domliness
I am a Paragon of Domliness and I have been the most amazing Dominant all my life. I am twenty-three years old and every moment of my life I order women around. Women live to serve me. I mean ALL women. With one glance from me they fall to their knees ready to serve Me.
I see your belt threaded through your jeans belt loops and my heart skips a beat. It is that belt. It looks very much like any other belt but it isn’t. I watched as you made it, not understanding what I was seeing. There is the stainless steal fixings, buckle and pretty copper rivets. You catch me looking at it and you ask, ‘Is there a problem kitten?’
I see you
I see you. There are times I look at you and yes, I can see what you are doing, but under it all I see so much more. I can see you hunched over the bench as you work your magic with leather. I know your mind is consumed and focused and your strong hands move over the thing you are making, be it a whip, or cuffs or even a flogger
Mental Illness and the Lifestyle
This is a subject I feel passionately about as it has been a part of my journey. I read a post by nijntje from nijntje & The Bear about mental illness called Give me wings to fly. and it prompted me to write this.
Music pure and simple
In My Darling’s Eyes
I can get lost in his eyes, looking into their depthless wonder and see my whole world in them. He has so many looks. The one that makes him frown when he doesn’t understand something. He looks at me and hopes to see an answer in my eyes. Sometimes there is but sometimes there isn’t. Do I see defeat in his eyes then? Never. As long as my belief in him is there in my eyes he will never give up.
This post will require the reader to dig into their imagination, to journey along with me to understand my vision for this flight of fancy.
Picture this… a road of brightly lit shop windows in the 1800’s. It looks slightly Dickensian and lets make it a Christmas theme as Christmas is a joyful time. (Okay that is maybe not quite so true. Use your imagination.) There are old fashioned lamps along the road. Why not go the whole hog and have horse and carriages? Hey why not? It IS my vision.
Journal Entry (please do not copy this picture)
I have been looking at some pictures of beautiful ladies posted on here and Fetlife. I am female and I love looking at them but I think I might be seeing them in a different way to other people.
Penises and Testicles
Ok I am a girl and do not have said body parts and they totally fascinate me. I mean you only have to touch a penis a little bit and it starts to swell, poking his head up. I mean the obvious applications of said cock and balls can bring some really intense sexual encounters, but apart from that they are still rather nifty.
Things I should have known about before my first BDSM relationship
It would have been great if I had known these things before starting in my first relationship. I was eighteen at the time. They were learned the hard, painful way and if one person reads this and takes my warnings seriously, it will be worth exposing myself like this.
These are words of advice I sort have chosen for myself to keep me safe. They are simple really but they are mine. Take the time to look at some for yourself.
I am 100% Of Everything
I am taking the test; you know that BDSM test, the one that will shape what people see of me. I am doing the long test and I answering how I feel people would like to see me so I answered I absolutely strongly agree 100%. I am answering that way with all these questions and I even answer 100% to questions I didn’t even understand.
Well I am still riding the glow after my experience of the Switchy kind. I am actually having thoughts of where this can go. I have never embraced a new thing quite as strongly as I have this time. I have images rolling slowly through my mind. I am not going to mention the ideas because, well because Sir reads everything I write here and he loves surprizes.
Labels within B.D.S.M. are common and so very misleading. Take Dominant, everyone knows it is a person that takes control of a sexual encounter and orders a submissive to do anything they want, right? They also dominate out of the bedroom, running the household, right? …Wrong
I thought it time for a new collection of images. I hope you like seeing them as much as I do collecting them. I must apologise if I repeat pictures...
A Moment in Time
Have you ever have a moment in time that seems to hold you there for what seems like an eternity? When everything comes together in one complete, perfect, moment and it rocks your world from the depths right up to the pinnacle
Doing what I said I wouldn’t
If you have read some of my posts you will have read that I have been battling breast cancer. I had a double mastectomy and then new implants and I had my ovaries removed.
A – Z of Sex, My Version
I have seen someone I respect on WordPress has decided to do an A – Z of sexual things. I am going to follow suit but I get a bit slack when it comes to daily posts so I thought I would do them in one go. So here goes…
My Daily Submission
My submission is not simply something I do during scenes. Yes, it is at the fore of a scene unless it is primal. Primal is that wild animal sex where I let go of all my submissiveness and become a tigress. Sir is just as wild. He is the tiger to my tigress. It is purely sex. No binding, no sweet submission just pure animal fucking with slaps and scratches and biting.
My headspace is sometimes governed by the day to day things like running a house, cleaning and buying groceries. In fact some of my time is caught up in those pursuits and it ticks over nicely. Well that and this blog. I really like blogging. I am actually a person that loves to read, listen to music and dance naked in the garden. However I have not actually tried dancing naked in the garden but the idea does appeal. It is way too cold to try but maybe this summer.
I don’t know how many of you belong to Fetlife but at the moment there is a really big ‘Hot Potato’ doing the rounds about safety for women and a few of the women there have decided to deactivate their accounts for three days.
Contradictions in me or in my submission
Within my mind I have many contradictions that affect my life with Sir. I have to wonder if all submissives have the same contradictions or perhaps different ones. I can’t speak for Sir and he said he is going to do a list from the Dominant side.
I think it is time for some new images I know you enjoy them. I have a growing interest more erotic images rather than porn. I find them to be very evocative.
Sir and I would like to make the blog a little more social. I am naturally drawn to making friends, especially in the kink community. It’s nice to know there are great people out there enjoying themselves… so I thought why not try to get to know each other? I also thought this might be a great way to do it.
Observation is one very large and underrated subject. It is essential for both the Dominant and submissive. A Dominant needs to look for so many signs in his submissive. He needs to see when she is happy, sad, sexual, or emotional. It is vital to him, it is the watchfulness and you need you be aware of it. A simple glance can send a whole conversation to your Dominant.
I am a member of Fetlife.com and I have the blog here and nothing seems to phase me in the realms of B.D.S.M. I peered in the windows with my safety net, my relationship with Sir, I watch on, not being judgemental. I am very accepting of anything that brings pleasure to the people involved. I want to let you know about all the roles I have encountered but try not to say, well that is damn weird, because every genuine person is entitled to their predilections.
My Relationship with my Breasts
Okay this may sound a strange topic but it will become abundantly clear why that title fits me. I have had a double mastectomy recently and I have now got implants.
I have used the notification Trigger Warning on a post. I also say what will follow such as a consensual / non consensual scene. I do that to warn people who suffer from PTSD….
A Show Of Strength
This is for all submissives out there that have been emotionally/physically hurt by a Dominant.
TRIGGER WARNING: CONSENSUAL / NON CONSENNSUAL POST TO FOLLOW
It is midnight I am walking down the city street and the hiss of tires on the wet road almost drown out the sounds of the engines. I have an umbrella but the wind shifts all over the place whistling down alleys and the roads and directs the light drizzle onto me…more
TRIGGER WARNING – PAIN AND WHIPPING DESCRIPTION
I have dark desires and I have shared them with my Sir but so far we have not really gone into them all up until now. I am both afraid and exhilarated by them… more
I am enjoying these pictures are from copy right free Pixabay because they evoke more of a reaction than the more pornographic images do. These have soft edges and moody lighting and that appeals to my artistic side. They arouse on a deeper level…more
Just Things On My Mind
I noticed something that I do not do that other blog writers do and that is to just speak of my feelings and life. Not all my life is sexual, maybe only 30% but it doesn’t take much to get me there…more
Fantasies, flights of fancy, dreams we weave. I am speaking of sexual fantasies and often, they become part of our journey through our sexuality. Within the whole BDSM scene, to have fantasies and to go after them takes a great deal of courage…more
A Twue Dom
What makes a twue Dom?
Well they are easy to find during the hunting season/(it is always hunting season) They wear dark suits and white silk shirts. Even to the gym./so you will be dry cleaning and mending them a lot…more
What Kind Of Base
There is one important question that I haven’t talked about and it should have been one of the first. It is about foundations and what you come together and build on. I guess it really comes down to what you are looking for…more
Collaring for a submissive or slave is a milestone that should be celebrated rather than just slipping it around your neck and that is that. I think if it is a ritual it means more. I also feel a collar should be earned through loyalty, trust, love, and a deep need to serve your Dominant or Master…more
What I Wanted
I never knew what I wanted until you told me. Sounds terrible doesn’t it? Would it sound better if I said I love this man with my whole heart? I met him when I felt pretty fractured…more
More images that are very beautiful. I hope you enjoy them…more
We are a couple living in a committed 24/7 Dom/sub relationship that is very monogamous. We have been together for quite a few years. I am forty (well almost) and Sir is a little older. We are not looking for anyone to join us we just want to promote a good slant on the lifestyle and to debunk all the crazy ideas... more
Slavery is not a lifestyle all submissives wish to enter and that is fine. It is also fine if you find the idea of being a slave to be something you would like to try. I am a submissive but I have also been a slave…more
You Are Amazing
You run your fingers through my soul and breathe life over my lips. Each touch electrifies my nerves and makes my essence flow from the core of me. You hold my heart in your hands and coax it to beat stronger, fiercer,…more
This is a subject given to me by my Sir and it is a very important thing to do. I have mentioned before that, at the beginning of a porn clip, the ‘Dominant‘ and ‘submissive‘ of the clip will discuss what they enjoy…more
Lately you’ve been on my mind and I don’t know why
But I am wondering if you would recognize
The scared child has turned into a badass woman…more
How Can I Tell?
I have heard a couple questions in my life about how can a Dominant can tell how much pain is inflicted with things like Paddles, floggers, whips and rulers. Well this is a large question. Of course it depends on how hard you strike…more
I Slapped His Face
Trigger warning, violence
I get into strange moods and sometimes that runs against my submissiveness. Believe it or not, Sir actually enjoys it, so please hold back your disbelief and enjoy the ride. I know I certainly did…more
Coming Out Of The Dungeon
So much of this life I lead is done behind closed doors, hidden from friends and family. I know there are many others like me. I mean not many of us have ‘come out’, so to speak. I have to wonder why not? …more
What Is Love?
Love is a hot, writhing thing, gathering up people as it rolls around.
Caught in the undulating energy, stealing your will and sensibilities…more
Fire in the Darkness
He takes me to a darkened room
and tethers hands up high
I can escape the coming fire…more
I am tied, I am bound, cannot move. I close my eyes and start to fly.
My body aches, my body’s bent, I feel your hand around my neck.
There is no time, there is no grace. My body floats locked into place….more
Night Of the Vampire
I see you coming towards me, down the darkened ally and I shiver. Perhaps it was not a good idea to take the shortcut. I look behind me and there is no one else around so I am alone but for him. He has on a long dark coat with the collar pulled up. His hands are in his pockets and his head is down…more
The Education of Elizabeth
She had just agreed to become his submissive and he had told her to undress… slowly. She had blushed and to begin with she rushed. With a word he stopped her and made her slow down…more
This is a very important subject that should have been put close to the beginning of the blog so for that I am sorry.
NO MEANS NO
What Am I
The first thing I want to say here is I hate labels. They quantify, constrict us and lead us to different places and some of those places are not where we hoped to be. I mean if you try to live up to a stereotypical role you become locked into a situation that maybe has things you don’t want to do… more
Things that make me moan
I was talking to Sir this morning and I find that very often He says something to me that makes me moan, so I thought why not write about those things. Then I thought maybe you could add what makes you moan in pleasure in the comments. So here goes…more
Sharing is a pretty self evident subject but it might be worth talking about it with your Dominant before you enter into your relationship. I made sure Sir knew almost immediately that I didn’t want to be shared with other men. … more
Submissives kneeling in a number of poses are very pleasing to Dominants and Masters. They find this an act of complete surrender and that is something only the submissive can do. They might have seen pictures of girls posing but it is much better in real life…more
Open To Our Readers
I would like to throw the blog open to all of you and give you a chance to suggest a topic for us to talk about. I will include a contact us link and you can leave comments in the comments box…more
Fetish means sexual attraction to or arousal at something sexual or nonsexual such as an object or a part of a body, such as ‘he has a fetish for feet’…more
Just For My Sir
Journal Entry for Sir
Just a collection of music clips and photos…more
Pearls, Collars, Corsets, Gloves and Latex.
Pearls are very sexy and they can also be use as a wonderful sexual tool, dragged against the clit it can drive a girl crazy…more
Just bits and bobs
This is a page of different things that I will do my best to describe. They are things that might not merit a whole page of description. I will keep adding as we go along…more
Even more pictures for you to enjoy…more
For Prospective Dominants
This is an article for all you new Dominants or if you are considering becoming a Dominant.
This is a time for you to discover what kind of things turn you on when you think about being Dominant…more
This is a subject that Sir and I have in life. Fluid consent is with us 24/7 and because of that it works best for us.
Let me explain exactly what it is…more
This is a big subject to cover considering it is just a smallish part of the female body. These are the outer part of a woman’s femineity. They are the thing many men notice first…more
Ok people don’t choke or panic, we have arrived at one of the things that a lot of people baulk at. Putting your mind at ease anal sex can be really enjoyable…more
NEVER LET ANYONE FORCE OR MANIPULATE YOU INTO DOING THIS. .
A BIG WHINGE
This has nothing to do with BDSM but I want a bit of a whinge about it. When did politeness and respect ever disappear from the world????…more
I thought this to be something I needed to write about and it rings true, or should ring true for everyone. It sort of addresses the fine balance of any D/s relationship…more
Sub Drop / Top Drop
Drop may occur for a Top or bottom and they can sometimes be different where the Top seems to suffer to a lesser degree it has enough merit to mention in this article…more
People sometimes believe that intimacy means sex and that is so far from the truth. The intimacy I share with Sir touches my heart, my mind and my soul. It is the conduit that carries our love into each other… more
Some beautiful images for you to enjoy…more
This is something that can be so very pleasurable or one of the hardest things to have to do. It is the act of masturbating to the point of orgasm then stopping and being denied the ultimate satisfaction. It can be a discipline or a delightful tease depending on your kink… more
Just a note to our readers
At this moment in time I have a very serious health problem that requires me to have chemotherapy. I have had Radiotherapy and having something to write for, has given me something to occupy my down time… more
Now I expect everyone reading this will understand the mechanics of oral sex. Basically it is the stimulation of the genitals with the mouth and tongue. Simple really. However, there are a few things I like to bear in mind. Now I am going to have to be a little crude…more
Yet more pictures for you to enjoy… more
What a Dominant Does to a Submissive
I could make broad strokes of my writing with a paintbrush that would not give an accurate vision so I will keep this strictly to me and how being submissive to my Sir has affected my life and what he has done to me. That sounds ominous but please read on…more
Torment vs Torture
Words, words, words… they have different meanings but they are powerful words and can misguide you. A lot of people would say those two words mean the same thing but to me they mean something entirely different. Bare in mind I am not the all powerful god of knowing but in this site I can only tell you how I feel… more
In the world today there are mean spirited people that sometimes gives us their hate. You will not find it here. You will find messages of celebration in the diversity of mankind. So look at these images and understand that every person is beautiful… more
Orgasm or Forced Orgasm
Orgasm, you might say, seems easy, but there is a high percentage of women that have never achieved an orgasm. However, in this day and age sex is more open to discussion. Men seem to find this whole process easy and if they do not have a partner, they are able to take matters into their own hands. Women too…
Some more pictures for you to enjoy. If you have a comment to make please use the section at the bottom of the page…. more
After every scene there will be a time where you both flop on the bed together and cuddle. It is the afterglow and a good time to talk about how you enjoyed yourself and to make sure your partner knows it was incredible… more
Humiliation sounds terrible but it can be exciting to some submissives. It can also be fun.
Mild forms of humiliation such as:-
- Being made to stand in the corner as discipline. It can be for an hour or more and you feel so embarrassed…. more
The Basics of BDSM
As this is the very beginning of this sojourn into BDSM, Sir and I will start with the basics.
It doesn’t get more basic than this. B bondage, D dominance, S sadism and M masochism.
There are so many myths surrounding the whole BDSM lifestyle and I hope we can help…more
From time to time I will be posting erotic art for your enjoyment. All images I got from Pixabay.com and are copy right free. So please kick back and enjoy them. If you have a comment to make please use the section at the bottom of the page….more
The Journey Begins
Thanks for joining us! Sir and kitten’s guide for a great BDSM relationship…more